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Case B-01

How to stop my dog from jumping on my guests?

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How to stop my dog from jumping on my guests?

Kept word for word, including the spelling. It is what a dog parent typed at the point of running out of ideas, and that is worth more than a tidy version of it.

Dog jumping on guests is a human behavior problem, not a dog problem. Sunny Luthra explains why nurturing calmness stops jumping within 2-3 days.

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“My Dog jumps on my guests”
“My Dog is always hyper or excited”
“I am afraid my dog’s jumping can hurt kids”
“I want my dog to meet calmly with everyone”
“I don’t know why my dog is always hyper”
“He is always in a mood to play”

I hear concerns like these almost every day and people think that issue is in the dog but in reality, humans don’t know how to channelize the energy of the dog.
In every breed, you will find dogs with 4 types of energy.

  • Low
  • Medium
  • High
  • Hyper

The meaning of level of energy is the amount of mental stimulant a dog requires to feel fulfilled, if he doesn’t feel fulfilled then it will be very difficult for a dog to calm down.

Recently a family called me for their hyper dog who used to jump on everyone, pulls on the walk, and keeps on barking whenever the family is discussing something which was making any type of communication happen among family members very difficult and unpleasant.

When I reached their home and met with the dog I found out that the reason behind the excitement of the dog is the behavior of the humans with the dog.

Everyone in the family and in their building used to meet with a lot of excitement with the dog, so the dog learned only this way(excitement) of living life.

As soon as I started behaving calmly with the dog, the dog became calm, it felt like he was waiting for me the whole time to come and teach their humans the right way of raising a dog.

The most common mistake humans make while meeting their dog or any dog is they project a lot of excitement because they think excitement is happiness but excitement and happiness both are different emotions.

This family was also doing the same, whenever they come back home, they open the gate, take the name of the dog with a lot of excitement, so the dog comes running and starts to jump and humans give affection to the dog.

On a daily basis, the dog is learning excitement means affection, jumping means love, so he keeps on doing the same for his humans.

But, real happiness for a dog is when is he calm and submissive. Not when he is excited. In mother nature excitement is unstable energy, you will not see any zebra jumping in a forest.

I asked them to start nurturing calmness and ignoring excitement.

I also told them to meet the dog with calmness.

Within 2-3 days dog stopped pulling them, stopped jumping, stopped barking.

They were facing this issue for 2 years but if they knew how a dog’s mind works then they and their dog wouldn’t have to go through so much frustration.

That’s why learning about a dog’s mind is very important if you want to raise calm, confident, and loving dogs.

Questions this record answers

Why does my dog only jump on some guests but not others?

Dogs are excellent at reading energy. Guests who approach with calm, neutral energy get a calm response. Guests who arrive with high excitement, big voice, arms open, direct eye contact, trigger the dog’s excitement response. The dog has learned to mirror the energy of the person in front of them. Ask guests to enter calmly, avoid greeting the dog directly, and wait for the dog to settle before any interaction.

My dog jumps only on kids, not adults. What does this mean?

Children typically move erratically, make high-pitched sounds, and show a lot of excitement, all of which the dog reads as an invitation to match that energy. The dog is not being aggressive; they are playing at the child’s energy level. Teach children to stand still, cross their arms, and turn sideways when the dog approaches. No eye contact, no squealing. The dog will lose interest in a non-responsive target within seconds.

Should I use a knee or push to stop my dog from jumping?

Physical corrections like kneeing, stepping on back feet, or pushing work only in the moment and teach nothing about what the dog should do instead. They can also accidentally reinforce the behavior, the dog got physical attention, which is still attention. The more effective method is complete withdrawal of attention (turn away, cross arms, silence) the instant the dog jumps, and immediate reward when all four paws are on the floor.

How do I stop guests from encouraging my dog’s jumping when they visit?

Brief guests before they enter. A simple ‘please ignore him until he sits, he’s in training’ is enough for most people. Keep it lighthearted. If a guest ignores your instructions and greets with excitement, calmly remove the dog from the situation and try again after 5 minutes. Consistency protects your training from being undone by well-meaning visitors.

How long before the jumping stops completely?

With full household consistency, everyone ignores jumping, everyone rewards calm, most dogs stop the jumping habit within 2 to 4 weeks. The first few days are the hardest because the dog escalates (jumps harder, barks) when the old reward pattern disappears. Push through it. That escalation is called an extinction burst and it means the training is working.

Ask about your own dog

A case is general. Your dog is not.

The detail that resolves a behaviour case is almost never the one the parent thought mattered. Bring the specifics, the timing, the household, what you do in the ten minutes before it happens, to a one-to-one call with Sunny.

Before you try anything here

Some of this belongs in a room, not on a page

A bite that broke skin, a dog guarding food or a place from the people who live there, or any of this in a home with a small child, those want a behaviourist present. All three are workable. None of them are workable from here.

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